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  okurgalov 7:51 pm on November 22, 2011 Permalink
  Tags: Divorce ( 2 ), love ( 8 ), Marriage ( 4 ), partner ( 5 ), people ( 14 ), relationship ( 6 ), women ( 7 )   

  Five Secrets To Help You Keep Him 

  Are you in love with the man in your life? Do you want to know the secrets to a lasting relationship with him?

  Most of us have expressed the desire to have a lover of the lasting kind…someone to grow old with. Yet, almost 50% of marriages in the U.S. end in divorce. And 62% of second marriages do not survive. What contributes to these statistics and what can you do about it for your own personal life?

  Living longer, higher standards of living, women‘s professional and economic independence, and the acceptance of divorce have all changed the meaning of marriage. Today, marriages are held together by the quality of the relationship between the two people.

  Here are some thoughts on building bonds that last:

  Choose well to begin with.

  If you want someone to stay with you and love you forever, you need to choose carefully, using both your head and your heart. Chemistry and “cute” may attract you, but you have to combine that with achievement, values, and purpose and you have a greater chance for the relationship to endure.

  Focus your attention on your beloved.

  Paying close attention to someone is to fulfill our partner’s needs. To be in the same room and talk, and not run away or distract yourself with TV or get busy with projects or other people is to show that you care. Furthermore, when we listen to what they are saying, and care about how they are feeling, we demonstrate that we are committed to them. When we thank them for what they do for us, they feel acknowledged and appreciated. These acts of attention build lasting bonds.

  Be your own person.

  When we count on other people or circumstances to make us happy, we are in for disappointments. The main ingredient for a lasting romance is to be a happy, whole person to begin with. Being a whole person means to have your own career, finances, emotional life and support systems in place. You are not looking for someone to save you from your unfulfilled present life or heal you from your wounded past. If you feel “broken,” you take grownup steps to put yourself back together with professional help. THEN you look for someone to share your life with.

  Spend a lot of time together.

  There is no substitute for spending time together to be involved in activities, work toward a common goal, problem solve, and see something through from beginning to end. If you are getting to know someone, working side-by-side on a mutual project reveals a lot about who the other person is. If you are in a committed relationship, supporting each other in a joint adventure builds shared history and success.

  Show kindness, caring, and affection.

  If you take someone for granted, they may disappear out of your life. Kind words, gestures of affection, honest compliments, listening well, and not holding grudges all add up to the feeling that a chosen partner wants to be around you. Investing daily in these signs of love makes both of you feel stable, grounded, and happy to come home.

  And finally, the best way to keep him interested is to remember to give this quality of love to yourself also. It’s hard to find someone to love us if we don’t love ourselves. You deserve his love…and yours.

   
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  okurgalov 7:51 pm on November 22, 2011 Permalink
  Tags: people ( 14 )   

  New Reality TV Show Proposed 

  It is amazing the success of Reality TV. Survivor, You’re fired, and the Contender have blown out all other television shows. They are realistic, interesting and fun to watch as people interact in high paced and high stress situations. Some believe it is because people can relate with them so well and in fact that maybe part of it. But whatever reason, it goes to show that reality TV is where it is at. Martha Stewart is planning a reality TV show, which is sure to make its mark among the other top rated reality TV sensations.

  I propose a new reality TV Show. We will call it; “This is Your Government.” Two teams will compete and are assigned easy tasks like regulating a Lemonade Stand or monitoring a Non-Profit Carwash by a church youth group. The government worker rank and file along with the bureaucrats will team up to see who can best regulate the chosen activity for the week.

  In true government style the team, which can create the most paperwork the quickest will receive points. But that’s not all, the team which can invent a way to tax the activity the greatest, will also receive a large number of points. The team, which eventually causes the kids to go out of business fastest, will indeed be declared the winner. Each team will have a coffee pot, 60 reams of paper, ten computers and a large building to operate out of.

  Won’t that be a very realistic “Reality TV Show” indeed? Think about it.

   
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  okurgalov 7:51 pm on November 22, 2011 Permalink
  Tags: women ( 7 )   

  Interviews with Single Nightclub Women 

  Featuring Answers to the Question, “What Kind of Man Turns you Off in a Nightclub?”

  When doing research for a book I wrote on how to pick up single sexy women in bars and nightclubs, I interviewed over 200 single women in nightclubs. One of the questions was, “What kind of man turns you off in a nightclub?” Here are some of their answers (most of the women had the same answers):

  Robin – “One who comes right up in your face with bad breath. A man with bad body odor and wrinkled clothes. Takes things for granted and sits down without asking. One who comes on too strong.”

  Kerry – “One who thinks he’s a good dancer, but steps all over your feet.”

  Erika – “The overly flashy type man. A man who treats me like a piece of meat.”

  Valerie – “A man that acts dumb. He shows off in front of everybody. He thinks he’s real cute. Cares more about himself than he does about you. Also, he comes right up to you with bad breath.”

  Paula – “A show off, a man that thinks he’s really special, a guy dressed tacky, or a bum, a fast mover.”

  Susan – “A drunk, stubborn man. Some men insist that you dance with them even if you say no . That turns me off.”

  Gail – “A forward, especially drunk, insistent man.”

  Debbie – “A fat, drunk man. A man who thinks he’s macho.”

  Erin – “A foul-mouth man.”

  Sandra – “Too feminine and doesn’t dress masculine. A fat man. A man who is not a good listener.”

  Karen – “If he’s too suggestive, dresses too fancy (don’t like suits), and too drunk.”

  Kim – “A guy that’s too pushy and brags too much on himself.”

  Nicole – “A guy that’s too forward and obnoxious.”

  Barbara – “Gay and ugly men.”

  Nancy – “A drunk and untidy man.”

  Natalie – “A cocky snob (stuck up).”

  Gayle – “Short and fat. Real conceited guys who think they are God’s gift to women.”

  Peggy – “A man I don’t even know that fondles me and paws at my body. A real drunk guy that stumbles up to me and trys to hustle me or dance with me. Obese men.”

  Teresa – “The type that lie and sit around and brag about themselves. They think they are hot stuff.”

  In conclusion, use these interviews as a guideline on how to conduct yourself accordingly at the nightclubs. You’re not going to score with very many sexy single women if you do things to turn them off. These interviews can be summed up as follows:

  Single women like to be approached in a respectable manner. They usually don’t like the aggressive approach and don’t like to be treated like a piece of meat.

  Single women like well-groomed, well-dressed men, with a pleasing personality.

  Single women dislike conceited, drunk, forward, and obese men.

  P.S. This article is an excerpt from our best-selling book, “The Complete Guide to Meeting Women.”

   
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  okurgalov 7:51 pm on November 22, 2011 Permalink
  Tags: friendship, love ( 8 ), people ( 14 ), relationship ( 6 )   

  How To Get Him Back When He Has Found Someone New – Pay Attention 

  I suppose you happen to be here because you want to know how to get your ex back? Losing the man you love to another girl has to be the worst feeling in the world. You will feel angry and betrayed, deeply hurt, jealous and insecure amongst other things. These emotions are natural, I know; I’ve been in your shoes. But this doesn’t necessarily mean the end! If you play your cards right, you’ll hopefully be amongst the 90% of people who learn how to turn this situation around.

  Before you dash out and attempt to patch things up by yourself, stop! Take heed of the experts; they have an established track record of helping people in the same situation.

  Yelling, shouting or hurling abuse may get things off your chest; however, it’s not really going to help the situation is it? So please restrain your self and wait until you’ve calmed down. Don’t go to him crying and begging either, this is foolish; where’s your pride? The last thing you need is him to take you back out of sheer pity; what a miserable relationship that would result in! Hold your head up, be mature about things, listen to some good advice and you’ll double your success rate.

  Whether or not it’s the last thing you want to do, you’ll have to face the fact that it’s over for the time being and give your ex some space. Don’t follow him, spy on him or attempt to bump into him on purpose, you don’t want him to think you’re desperate or an emotionally unstable stalker; which is very unattractive!

  You are sure to have mutual friends, but try not to be tempted to tell them what a SOB he has been, you know he’ll find out sooner or later. And whatever you do, do not say anything about his new girlfriend, even if she’s got two heads and a ring through her nose, you’ll only make him defensive towards her.

  When everything has calmed down and you have taken stock, you must start making friends again. Keep it on a friendship only basis and work on him until you have his trust back. Eventually he’ll begin to see you as his best friend and confidante, this is just what you’re aiming towards. Once again resist all temptation to criticize his new girlfriend, in fact if he discusses her at all, you have to remain completely neutral. Once his new relationship starts to deteriorate, you’ll be the one he turns to.

  The next task is to revive his passion for you. Toss your mind back to when you first met. Do you remember what attracted him to you to begin with? Was it your looks, your cool attitude, or your special smile? I’m sure you’ll know what it was and if it’s gone, you are going to have to discover how to become truly irresistible to him again.

  You can’t just leave things to chance if you really are convinced that your man and you are supposed to be together. Doing the wrong thing at this stage can ruin your chances for good and taking expert advice will make a major difference. After taking all of the advice into consideration you will need to know what to do next to increase your chances of getting him back.

   
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  okurgalov 7:51 pm on November 22, 2011 Permalink
  Tags: partner ( 5 ), Wedding ( 3 )   

  Choosing Your Wedding Stationery Colours 

  Choosing the perfect wedding stationery style and colour can be a difficult task. It’s a cliche I know, but your wedding stationery, whether it be the save the date card or the actual wedding invitation, is the first idea your guests get about your wedding theme. Even as they sit at the ceremony venue before the bridal party arrives, the mass booklet is among the decor that they see.

  While we find that the majority of couples choose to incorporate their wedding colour scheme into their stationery, many others go for a completely different colour or just keep it all neutral. This probably has a lot to do with whether or not the couple are keeping the bridesmaids’ dresses colour etc. tight lipped! Using the colour on your stationery will give guests a hint of the colour scheme and while some brides consider this to mean letting the cat out of the bag, also remember that it reduces the chances of a guest turning up at the wedding in the same colour dress as the bridesmaids. On the other hand, if the wedding stationery colours keep the ‘punters’ guessing about the wedding colours, guests will be in for more of a surprise on the day!

  So, how do you incorporate your wedding colours into your stationery? Using white or ivory base card, couples can use an accent colour in the form of ribbon or embellishment rather than having the full card in their chosen colour. There is something very elegant and understated about a pale card adorned with a splash of colour whereas a full colour card is more vibrant and modern – it all depends on your personality and which you prefer! Popular colours all year round include lilac/purple, sage green and cerise pink. Browns and burnt orange are in demand more so for Autumn weddings and reds and deep blues and purples will always be a favourite for Winter weddings.

  Whether you are making your own wedding stationery or leaving the hard work to someone else, it’s hard to beat smooth satin ribbon for transforming plain card into luxurious wedding stationery in your chosen colour scheme.

  The most important thing when it comes to your wedding stationery style, colours, fonts and wording, is that there are no ‘rules’. Your wedding will be unique to you and your partner and so should your wedding stationery. Research by getting samples, experiment with colours, get opinions from friends and family but at the end of the day, remember it’s your wedding!

   
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  okurgalov 7:51 pm on November 22, 2011 Permalink
  Tags: Wedding ( 3 )   

  Elegant Wedding Invitations by a Wedding Coordinator 

  Having just gone through the wedding process, I thought I would touch upon selecting elegant wedding invitations including customized wedding invitations. Also included in this article are some helpful hints when creating your wedding guest list.

  It is always nice to set the tone of your wedding regarding who the two of you are and what you two want your wedding to be with your invitation. For us, we wanted to have an elegant, heart warming wedding but still keep it fun and whimsical. One of the ways we did this was to work with a company that specializes with customized wedding invitations. I had worked with this team previously and this company was on my list when I wanted to send elegant wedding invitations for my wedding.

  For our customized wedding invitations, we started by selecting the print style and the paper. For me, weight is everything when it comes to paper and I personally like a heavy-weighted wedding invitation. In addition, I selected letterpress printing because I believe this type of printing provides a sense of importance and adds to the look of elegant wedding invitations.

  We decided in the beginning that our wedding colors were to be celadon and gold and we liked the multilayer look created by the three different types of papers used on our invite. The French satin ribbon that was applied by hand at each of the corners created a framed look to our invite and is another one of the benefits when creating your own invitation.

  Finally, we created our own logo. We took our initials and interlocked them with a heart!

  When considering who you are inviting to your wedding, here are some helpful tips in creating your wedding invite guest list:

  Use a spreadsheet program, such as Excel from Windows, Numbers from Apple or the spreadsheet offered in Google Documents. These programs will save time in the long run. The list will be neat and clean and easy to read.

  You can alphabetize the guest list and always modify it for future parties. You can easily add columns such as guest count, meal choice or gift brought. Plus, you can merge the file to create labels for any purpose, whether it is the actual invitation, place card or thank you note.

  Not sure about the particular spelling of someone’s name? Don’t hesitate to call and ask. Trust me, it is better to call and ask than to have the guest call and inform you of your mistake.

  I hope you gained some tips for your wedding list as well as picked up on a couple of ideas to create your own elegant wedding invitations. When considering customized wedding invitations, note they will be more expensive but you have the freedom and creativity to make something unique and special for the two of you.

  Until next time, remember the Budget Bash mantra: make it simple, stylish, fun and economical for all!

   
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  okurgalov 7:51 pm on November 22, 2011 Permalink
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  Can Design Solve the Big Issues? 

  Design has been used to sell unnecessary products throughout the last growth period but now the world and our perceptions have changed. In the aftermath of the global financial crisis, the greedy bankers’ feast and now the onslaught of “the cuts,” many people are rethinking material desires, often feeling that their superficial wants are somehow inappropriate at a time when we all know someone who’s suffering financially. What we want now is value and worth.

  We’re focusing on what we need and questioning whether it has any real, intrinsic value. This way of thinking could completely change the game for designers and should mean their skills are channelled away from aesthetics and towards real content that can make a social difference. I feel we are best to focus on creating new products, which embrace technological advancement and gained knowledge but have practical value and meaning. Living in this fast -moving, information age there are many ways to add value. We want to know HOW products are created, the ethical standpoint of the Company, how they treat their staff, and we want to know WHERE products are made and where they end up.

  In the past, the focus on making desirable, sexy products to fly off shelves was enough but these days people can find out if a product has flaws with a touch of a button, so a product needs to be designed for it’s whole life span with functionality the key to future success.

  Designers and consumers are now starting to factor in what happens after it’s life span and soon designing for the rubbish tip will be outdated until the evolution from raw material to creative, functional product and back into raw material to make new products have been properly designed

  I feel now is the most exciting time to call yourself a designer as we have a responsibility to be aware of the whole process and the impact our designs could have on the bigger issues. We need to design for a consumer who has a world of information at their fingertips but that said if it doesn’t look attractive people probably won’t have the inclination to look.

  This could mean we haven’t changed that much and everything comes down the slick n sexy design. Maybe, but its increasingly style AND substance we crave, so as we develop a greater knowledge and understanding of the world around us, what we find attractive will also change.

   
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  okurgalov 7:51 pm on November 22, 2011 Permalink
  Tags: dating ( 5 ), love ( 8 ), people ( 14 )   

  The Truth About Dogs and Dogs 

  I have come to the conclusion in my short time on this earth, that there are far to many people that ignore the most important things in life. Most certainly this happens in the gay community where almost all actions are taken to extremes.

  Now don’t get me wrong, some things are good when taken to extremes like tantrik sex. Although we have to keep in mind when we take it to the limit what do we miss along the way?

  There once was a charming one bedroom apartment located just south of Seattle. One day the young gay man who lived there decided to take a trip out in to this gay Mecca and see what it had to offer him. However when he got there he found that his dreams of meeting a prince on a white horse, were replaced with meeting self indulgent men in white lycra. He found himself thinking what has happened, was this a society he wanted to be a part of where wet night is your one chance at finding love? In our world where time is the most prized possession, where speed dating is a major trend and there are more designer drugs than designers you have to to think whats love got to do with it?

  Now those of you who are gay and reading this may be able to help me out with this one. When did hello turn in to wana f*ck? When I first started going out in Seattle he thought he was a freak, because I unlike so many of my gay brethren spoke what I actually thought; right about now I know I’m losing about half of my gay readers but its true. So many of us are constantly thinking what does this make others think of me instead of remembering what does this make me think of me?

  There was a time not that long ago that if two men were walking down the street holding hands that they would have been chased out of town like perverts. Not so any more, in most of the US you can be just about any sexual inclination you want. But once again in true American form we leapt to the task of taking it to the max with joyful abandonment. Now instead of looking for some knowing nod or look in the eye of another man, we look for a designer label, or a body that could only have been created by spending more time at the gym than at home. We no longer think wow I could be conversing with the man of my life right now we think, I’m talking with tonight’s bed warmer. When did getting off start to mean more than hitting it off?

   
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  okurgalov 7:51 pm on November 22, 2011 Permalink
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  Seeing Double 

  Our fascination with Helen and Katherine Henninger began months ago when we saw them walking together in Rhodes University campus dressed identically in black.

  The next time we see them, we can hardly contain our curiosity. They are wearing the exact same design of clothes with the same colour. Everything is the same from top to bottom. Even their bags are the same. Seeing them up-close, the twins are really mirror-image of each other,

  Don’t they find it strange?

  “For us wearing the same clothes is a natural thing,” says Katharine, [and] “It’s about loving each other, which is part of our identity,” adds Helen, who is older by three minutes.

  Who decides on what to wear every day?

  “Whoever gets up first!” says Katharine, laughing.

  Originally from East London, the 19-year old ladies moved to Grahamstown at the beginning of this year to pursue their studies at Rhodes. Guess what? They are doing the same Bachelor of Science combination course. These ladies don’t just have a lot in common, they have everything in common. “We share the same interests,” says Helen.

  She tries to remember how it was growing up with her sister. “We were always together and wearing the same clothes.” They also played the “swapping games” to amuse each other and their classmates. “But they were mostly our friends’ ideas. We didn’t really have a wild repertoire,”says Helen.

  As if this is not enough, Katharine recalls a time when they both went to the doctor because of a tooth ache. “We felt the same pain on the same tooth,” she says. Apparently the doctor had to run some kind of test; the poor man was confused about the results, he probably thought he was in some kind of a movie. “The doctor didn’t know whose results he had in his hand because they were the same,” says Katharine.

  This is ‘insane’. Or so we thought. But wait, there is more to come.

  “We always read from the same book,” says Katharine. “People have been trying to get us two separate copies, but it never works.” They prefer to read from the same page, so that they can laugh at the same jokes.

  The twins also share the same interests in books (“historical novels”), music (“rock music, such as Apocaluptical group from Denmark”), and movies (“Helen of Troy”).

  Next year, however, may mark the “cut of their umbilical cord” which has been binding them together all these years. Katharine wants to major in Physics, while her sister is thinking of Maths.

  So, people, catch them on their double-combi on the road while you can. Next year, they are going solo.

   
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  okurgalov 7:51 pm on November 22, 2011 Permalink
  Tags: Communication ( 3 ), love ( 8 ), partner ( 5 ), relationship ( 6 ), women ( 7 )   

  Turbo Charge Your Love Life: Fantasy 

  We have our real, everyday life and we have our fantasy life, playing out its details within our own minds. Men fantasize about power and wealth but primarily, throughout their lives, about sex. They see an attractive woman and imagine what it would be like to make it with her. In a solid, warm relationship, there is little likelihood that he will do anything about it but he will always dream.

  Female fantasies are more varied and change over time. As teenagers and young women, we imagine the knight in shining armor who will appear out of nowhere and whisk us off into a life of unadulterated bliss. When we meet our partner, we imagine building a life together and fantasize about children, where we’ll live, and what things we’ll do together.

  As we mature, we fantasize about our children and what they may accomplish, and what career steps we will climb. And, occasionally, we fantasize about what sex would be like with our attractive doctor, the sales manager down the hall, or forbidden sex with a total stranger.

  Because our fantasies are so different, it is often difficult to share them, even with the one who is so close to us. The common fantasies of costume sellers and B movies: the French maid in a barely-there apron, the harem dancer, the steamy tropical atmosphere, seldom relate to our private inner visions. If our fantasies differ, which is likely, we can increase our complete involvement in our partner’s life by occasionally participating in the other’s fantasy. Taking turns in setting the scene allows us to share our inner world in a safe atmosphere where the risk of such deep disclosure is minimized by mutual respect.

  Describe your fantasy in depth as if you were the director of a new stage play. You want your partner to see the drama in their mind’s eye and crawl inside the character you want them to play. Explain the roles and the interaction you want to see, Explore the details that make you feel aroused and excited.

  Then act it out with a willingness to make adjustments when your partner deviates from the script as will undoubtedly happen. If you find it impossible not to laugh at aspects you find uncomfortable or ridiculous, it’s okay – laughter and fun have a very big place in our sex lives which can self-destruct if taken too seriously. Afterwards, you can discuss how each other felt, what was pleasant and what was not.

  If you both found enjoyment, mentally tuck it away as a strategy to use periodically to heighten the excitement of future love-making sessions. If it just didn’t work at all for one of you, discard it from further consideration.

  After a period of time, the two of you will acquire a stable of fantasy situations that you can roll out when you feel the need for a different approach. They will become a vital part of your communication patterns, both in bed and out.

  Regardless of the number and intensity of the fantasies you are able to mutually enjoy, the fact of trying, and vicariously entering the mental world of your loved one, deepens your relationship and the appreciation of your many differences. When we feel that we know our partner completely, it is a major shock to learn of inner visions we never even guessed about. It returns us to the place where we are still exploring each other and rekindles the emotions we felt when first learning more about the one we love most in the whole world.